This new guide to stress management and emotional growth helps make the transition from military to civilian life as smooth as possible. During my own time with the Rhodesian military, I saw and felt firsthand how difficult it can be to leave the soldier’s mind-set behind. I realized that we had been forever changed by what we had seen and experienced. After years of practicing constant vigilance and readiness, we were emotionally exhausted.
I discovered that many soldiers would either turn their “claymore mine” inward or outward. Inward meant swallowing all the emotional turmoil until they couldn’t take it. Outward meant releasing that turmoil in front of others. Both situations were unsustainable and toxic.
I show you how to unload your burden in an emotionally healthy way. You can lean on your loved ones for support without pushing them away or causing them pain. I help you get you get rid of the claymore entirely and find better coping mechanisms to ease the transition to civilian life. I have dedicated my psychological career to helping others make the transition and now want to share my findings and techniques with you.
I show you how to:
· persevere when civilian life becomes overwhelming;
· begin with small changes;
· embrace the uncertainty of your new life;
· identify the psychological techniques and tools that can help you cope;
· refrain from making others carry your emotional burden;
· ask for help when you truly need it;
· tolerate different kinds of emotional discomfort;
· keep moving forward;
· stop letting your impulses get the best of you;
· refrain from blaming yourself or others;
· take the time to enjoy the good moments when they come; and
· approach new or existing relationships with clarity and self-control.
I keep my guide practical. I translate important neurological concepts into simple terms. I want you to understand that you can still embody the qualities of a warrior in your civilian life. You can use the lessons you learned during combat to grow and change. I help you leave the soldiering life behind and finally lay your burden down.